I recently realized that I’ve been in a relationship for the better part of 10 years. My first serious relationship was 7 years and I was only single for a short 3 months before meeting Lennon’s father.
I’ve now been single for 6 months but it is obviously very different now being a mother and even more so with the current socialization restrictions- aka no nights out with the girls!
I was chatting with a girlfriend about this recently and she mentioned that she is on Tinder. For the story’s sake, we’ll name her Josie.
Josie was telling me that she’d been chatting with this good looking guy on Tinder who was a fireman, owned his house and an investment property too (sounds like a winner hey?!). They exchanged Snapchat details and continued to chat on there. Some photos were exchanged but Josie caught on that the photos she was receiving were old photos and not current time selfies. She became suspicious and practically demanded a selfie. And so she got one but it wasn’t what she was expecting. The person in the photo looked 10 years older, 30 kilos heavier and well, just like a completely different person.
Josie asked him what was up and he claimed that all photos he’d sent were him, but his tinder profile photo was “a couple of years old”. Mm yeah no. I saw said photos and SHE WAS CATFISHED! I didn’t think that actually happened outside of the American TV show. But apparently it does!
So now I’m freaking out a little. Is this what I have to look forward to? Chatting to guys online, receiving unsolicited dick pics and potentially being catfished?!!
On top of this, Josie also discovered that Lennon’s father was on Tinder. She sent me a screenshot of his profile so I knew it was him.
When I asked him about it, he initially denied it but then admitted he’d created his account a few weeks prior when the two of us weren’t getting along. He explained to me that he had denied it because he didn’t want to upset me. And at first, I was a little upset. I’m still not sure why, but it was short lived and then I didn’t really mind at all. I actually sent him some alternative photos to use instead of the photo he had. You know that you are truly over someone when you are helping his online dating game!!
But in all honesty, single iso life is pretty lonely.
And what I miss the most, is simply a really good hug. You know the type… warm, firm and could almost be considered awkwardly too long. The kind that you feel like you could just melt into a puddle, and every concern or issue in your life has just disappeared. It doesn’t even have to be a hug from a partner or romantic interest, nor someone of the opposite sex. Just a damn good hug! That would be amazing right now! But no, iso life has got me cuddling my doona to sleep instead. Thanks covid ya jerk!
On a positive note, I’ve been thinking about single iso life vs coupled iso life. And as much as single iso life is lonely and difficult, especially when you have a baby, I also don’t have to worry about anyone else but us! No dirty washing left on the dining room floor (yeah I never understood that one either), no crappy moods to deal with, no meal requests, no “I’ll be home from work late” texts at 5pm when I’ve already planned an early dinner (early dinners weren’t a common occurrence but it happened once or twice). So I figure that’s a win for us single folk surely.
Who knows what my dating future will look like. You never know, my next post might be about me signing up to tinder! Don’t get me wrong, I’m certainly in no rush to enter a new relationship. I’m pretty happy just focusing on myself and Lennon, and the thought of being catfished sure as hell doesn’t appeal to me. But I guess time will tell and until then, I’ll just continue cuddling my doona (and of course Lennon).
Love and Light,
Amy ✨
Just the 2 of us 
Brilliant!
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